Thursday, January 19, 2012

Making the Most of Time

I have found what I believe will be a wonderful caregiver to come in 8 hours a day.  Another young woman will come between 8:00 and 9:00 pm to help me get RD into bed.  What a relief to finally have help in the house.  I was reaching my physical limit in transferring and moving RD.  With stress reduced in caring for him, I know the time ahead will be more focused and pleasant for both of us.  "Quality time" is a tired phrase but maybe it will have meaning for the two of us going forward.
Having someone in the house for 8 hours/day will be an adjustment but the positive outweighs the negative.  The real test won't be whether I can adjust, it will be whether RD can tolerate it.  He has always been a private, work alone, solitary man.  A social butterfly he is not.  LBD hasn't changed the core of him.  He prefers life as a twosome.
A friend is having a birthday tomorrow so I've baked a cake tonight.  Just doing routine things like that make me feel part of the 'real world'.  Because I have a new caregiver coming, I will even get to meet up with our group of friends to celebrate. Sounds wonderful and is making me smile.

1 comment:

  1. Oh Jo Ann!!!

    I'm so happy you found someone and some time for you and your needs too :)