I have found what I believe will be a wonderful caregiver to come in 8 hours a day. Another young woman will come between 8:00 and 9:00 pm to help me get RD into bed. What a relief to finally have help in the house. I was reaching my physical limit in transferring and moving RD. With stress reduced in caring for him, I know the time ahead will be more focused and pleasant for both of us. "Quality time" is a tired phrase but maybe it will have meaning for the two of us going forward.
Having someone in the house for 8 hours/day will be an adjustment but the positive outweighs the negative. The real test won't be whether I can adjust, it will be whether RD can tolerate it. He has always been a private, work alone, solitary man. A social butterfly he is not. LBD hasn't changed the core of him. He prefers life as a twosome.